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Tasha Thought's #2

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Good Touch Bad Touch  "You were the mushiest child I'd ever seen.  That's how I knew you weren't getting what you needed at home."     How does a child that is all about love, touch, hugs and kisses grow up to struggle with affection towards her husband and daughter?  Why was there a period where infidelity felt more comfortable than fidelity. As a Trauma Specialist, I'm learning that we really don't need to get to the root of our trauma to heal.  However, as we heal the symptoms, the roots begin to expose themselves on their own time.   My husband, our children and I were all in the kitchen just life-ing about 2 years ago.  My husband stood by the coffee counter and had a look that made it obvious his love tank was low- if not totally drained.  I felt convicted that I was doing a terrible job of keeping his love tank full.  I had spent so many years trying to balance love and not trusting that I was hurting.  We'd...
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Tasha Thoughts #1

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   S omething I really have struggled with  is the fine line of honoring your mother and father and setting boundaries.  After speaking with a friend, she helped me lift the final piece I had been holding onto- and I want to share that piece with you.   T o honor someone is to hold them to a high regard and have deep respect for them.  It's extremely hard to honor someone who has hurt you you mentally, emotionally, and/or physically- it can break the spirit.  For those of us strong enough to survive, come to a place of healing and thrive, I struggle with letting go because my hurt has been my fuel and bricks for my boundaries.   W hat happens if I let go?  Do I have to change my boundaries?  Am I expected to have a healthy relationship once I let go?  Does this mean I approve of the hurtful things they did?  Is that honor?!  How do I honor someone that hurt me?  What if they are still living the same lifesty...
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E.P.I.C.

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  T hrive O n P urpose EPIC - a long poem that tells a narrative of the deeds and adventures of a hero or legend. How epic is your life right now?  Who could you influence with your deeds and adventures?  I’ll let you in on a little secret- being Ethical, Powerful, Intelligent and Compassionate is the way to have an E.P.I.C life. E.P.I.C. is a great tool for adults and children.  As a homeschool mother of 3, I realize that children often know the difference between right and wrong without us needing to lecture them.  In fact- the lecture rarely changes the behavior.  The only way to change the behavior is to upgrade the pattern of thinking with questions and guidance.   Once children and adults can learn and think thoughts that are beneficial, they have beneficial behaviors.  E.P.I.C. thoughts lead to E.P.I.C. behaviors. Ethics: “Is what you’re doing right or wrong?”   Most of us would define ethics somewhere along the line of having g...
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